We must be sure that our heart bears no malice and is full of good will to people. All of this demands humility and an intense personal love of our Lord. That is the secret for all of your problems. Instead of tackling our failures directly, the best way is to tackle them indirectly by going to our Lord – reading about him, thinking about him, and talking to him and to his mother. Ask our Lady to give you the grace of close familiar friendship with our Lord. It is good to reflect on why God has called you to monastic life. God brought you to the monastery to love him. You show that love by loving your brethren with a supernatural love based on love for his Son, our Lord Jesus Christ.
– Father Eugene Boylan, O.C.S.O.